"I feel like I'm in an abusive relationship with my child."

This is something I hear quite often from Happy Home Coaching parents. 😭

➡️If you feel like you are walking on eggshells around your children. or victimized by their behavior, then this message is for you. Do you relate?

➡️If you are concerned for your physical well-being, a different level of support and intervention may be needed. Building out your professional support team is key.

If you feel victimized by your child's behavior, what's important to remember?

1) You're not alone.

This experience can feel super isolating and invoke parenting shame and guilt, as well as your own intense emotional responses rooted in fear or anger. Please remember there is a community of people who get this and that positive change is possible.

2) Compassion for yourself, your children, and the situation is key.

This experience with your children is probably connected to your negative life or childhood experiences that you did NOT choose. Compassion for yourself, your children, and the situation with them is the key to your transformation. It’s important to be a good friend to yourself through this challenging experience.

🌟If you feel like victimized by your child's behavior, here are 3 things your child needs most from you. 🌟

1.)  The Message of “We got this.”

Your kids need to know that as a team, you all can do this together. You’ll work together, and you’ll figure it out together.

“We got this” shifts out of blame, shame, and problems.

“We got this” sends the message that this is something we are addressing collaboratively as a family.

We are in this together, and we believe a solution is possible.

2.) For you to be in your Leadership role.

Your children can only feel “We got this” when you are in your grounded, positive leadership role and that you are:

  • Confident + Trusting
    • In the Driver’s Seat
    • Flying the Plane of the Family Team with Unconditional Love + Mutual Respect
    • Holding the Vision for Positive Change

If you’re not in your positive Leadership role, your children will try to overpower you, OR you will lead them from a negative place of fear or disempowerment.

3.) The Invitation into Positive and Loving Boundaries

If you feel like your children are abusing you, and they are overriding your personal boundary, this usually stems from a time in your childhood when your caregivers did not respect your boundaries.

This is why compassion for yourself is key.

I support you in separating your own childhood experiences and unmet needs from what your children need from you today: a clear and loving boundary rooted in mutual respect.

Then we develop the exact language in “kid speak” and a plan to invite your children into the positive boundary in a calm and connected moment, NOT during moments of high stress or challenging behavior.

Positive clarity and loving boundaries = safety for your brain and your children’s brains.

Your kids need to know and feel from you that you are in your positive leadership role and place of empowerment.

From this place, you can then uphold and invite your children into the positive vision, boundary, and expectation for the highest good.

"We got this." ✨ Parental Leadership ✨ Clear + Loving Boundaries

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If this email speaks to the dynamic with your children, I want you to know there is support for you, and positive change IS possible.🩷

✨ FREE SUPPORT: Join The Happy Home Week complimentary masterclass here. If you joined this community service program, and never scheduled your free call, you can do that here.

✨ BEGIN COACHING: Purchase the Happy Home Starter Package here for $299.

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Happy Home is designed to help you:

✔ Get back into your positive leadership role.
✔ Strengthen compassion for yourself and your child.
✔ Create clear, loving, mutually respectful boundaries
✔ Reduce explosive behavior and emotional overwhelm.
✔ Restore safety and connection in your home.
✔ Rebuild the “We got this” message your children need.

You don’t have to navigate this alone.

Your family relationships can feel supportive, respectful, and empowering.

We got this.

With love and leadership.

P.S. If you feel like a victim of your child's behavior, unfortunately, this painful cycle probably won't transform on its own. 😭

But positive change is always possible. Let's talk more here. Sending support, and keep the faith.