Research is clear that conflict between parents is a #1 indicator of negative outcomes for children in divorce/separation. My goal is to help you provide your children with a peaceful, healthy, fun, and secure foundation to grow up in.  This positive foundation for your children’s emotional well-being and mental health  is contingent upon low-conflict parental relationships and access to brain-based parenting tools. Please take a moment to read the following and ensure you are in agreement with these guidelines before schedule your consultation.

1. You’re in conflict with your co-parent, but you are both open to positive change and developing new communication patterns.

2. You are both dedicated to putting your child(ren) first. You recognize that you are family forever for your child(ren).

3. You see your part in the conflict and are willing to work on it – even if you feel justified in your response. 

4. You trust me and my approach as your guide. You recognize that I will be working for your family’s highest good.  I do my best to lead with compassion for your lived experiences and to extract your strengths from your challenges to create common ground between you and your ex. 

5. We will work together to advocate for your needs, so you can meet your children’s needs. I will do my best to affirm your experience, emotions, and needs in the dynamic, but ultimately I am an advocate for your children’s well-being.

6. You’re both right – and you both might be wrong. I will listen to both of you to understand your perspectives. Your children need both of your healthy perspectives. And sometimes you won’t like what I have to say or it will be hard to hear because I will be inviting you to understand the other parent’s perspective. You don’t have to agree with the other person, but rather to honor their perspective.

7. When your feelings and needs are honored and the highest good for your children at the forefront, we begin to do consensus-building and put mutual agreements in place to transform co-parenting challenges and develop sustainable solutions to parenting your children.

8. Brene Brown is quoted as saying, “the most compassionate people have the most well-respected and well-defined boundaries.” In addition to consensus-building, we will out compassionate boundaries in place for your co-parenting relationship.

9. Think of co-parenting as a work relationship: you both are in the business of raising healthy children. We will help shape a strong working, professional relationship to ensure your children’s thriving and hopefully increase the quality of life for everyone in your family.