Life can feel pretty bleak right now.
In Oregon, we're getting ready to begin another 3+ months of virtual school and the state is hotbed for white supremacy.
Our communities continue to face mental health challenges connected to the reality of living today, and there is a pandemic on a pandemic for Black Americans.
Election stress disorder is a now a term.
Stress has become the new normal for parents.
This isn't an easy time to be a parent.
What can we do to stay positive?
Wondering - or getting curious - is one of our top parenting tools, especially during this time of high stress.
Parenting can feel most challenging when life feels rigid and/or chaotic.
And let's face it, daily and societal life is a big combination of rigidity and chaos right now.
It's easy to want to shut down or give up in defense or to get anxious or depressed - and these are all natural human responses to these times.
Yet, sometimes our natural coping mechanisms can lock us into negative patterns in our lives. If you feel like this might be the case for you, try the power of wondering.
Wondering frees up new possibilities and positive change in ways that are both simple and profound for our home life and our world at larger.
The Power of Wondering
Think about a parenting problem that is causing you stress, and take a wondering journey with it.
Here's some examples of wondering that parents have used and found helpful:
* I wonder what my child is teaching me right now?
* I wonder how we can work together through this challenge?
* I wonder how I can make my life easier in this moment?
* I wonder if a boundary would be helpful here?
* I wonder what is something I can do right now to nourish my soul?
* I wonder what unexpected blessings we can find in this time?
* I wonder what is one anti-racist action step I can take today or how I can practice self care?
* I wonder how I can further my commitment to racial justice and equity?
* I wonder what societal advancements in racial justice and equality this generation will experience from this time?
When we wonder, we open up to new possibilities to create positive change in our homes and our world.
This week, what will you wonder about?
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!