quality connection time power

​i like to give you the biggest bang 
in positive impact
cut to the chase 
in all this new way
of positive parenting

so you can enjoy your kids
today!
and feel confident you are raising
little (or big) ones secure
in who they are +
ready to live their gifts
to make our world a better place

so here goes...
spend quality connection time 
or gem
{genuine. encounter. moments.}
with your kids

g.e.m.s or quality connection time
is one of your key tickets
to transforming misbehavior

this goes for all kids
and especially kids who are struggling
with their behavior

if your child is misbehaving
they are in what
becky bailey of
conscious discipline
calls a negative feedback loop

kids are wired for connection
+ attention from us
if they aren't getting it in 
positive ways,
they'll be sure to get our attention
in negative ways
= misbehavior

here's some guidelines
that you can adapt
for babies to the teen years....

1) pick a child-led activity that:
* is nurturing 
* you also enjoy doing
(legos are a no-no for me 
as they drive me bonkers),
* has a low frustration + competition level
* is right-brained, if possible:
dancing, art, making music, sand play,
rough housing (if it's fun), chasing each other
or going for a walk outside,
playing with stuffies,
or rocking in a rocking chair or porch swing
are some possibilities.

do what your family loves to do,
and if you're not sure
what that is
- pose the question
"what do we love to do together?"
so you can look for the answers this week

2) time recommendations:
* 10 minutes/ day
for children 5 years + younger
* 30 minutes/weekly
for children 6 years to teens
according to positive discipline
click here to read this great article 
             and hide your phones!!

3) don't discipline:
commit to focusing 
on how.... 
positive
amazing
beautiful
wondrous
your child is
yes

but....
if your kids use this time
to test you
(they might)
stay strong in the positive

if you need to
you can...
* whisper in their ear
"quiet" or "be gentle" 
* give them a hug
* or turn their misbehavior
into a joke

your #1 goal is
for your child to get your
POSITIVE attention

if your kids are testing you
or quality time feels disconnected

please reach out for support
talk to your community or a mentor
post a question in our fb community
or for a 1-1 question schedule
a 15 minute complementary
parenting empowerment exploratory session here
i'm beyond happy to walk you thru some ideas
please.don't.struggle.alone

you got this

wishing you so many g.em.
quality connection time moments
of enjoying the unique wonderment
of your children

they are amazing people, 
and so are you
enjoy each other!

p.s. Feeling stuck, frustrated or disconnected as a parent? We all do from time to time. All parents can benefit from individualized support. Schedule your complementary Empowerment session here.