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find your little rainbow in the storm

10/10/2015

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We all lose it.

No such thing,
as a perfect parent.
​


Feel better?

Parenting is hard work

yet there's this shame to messing up

like no one does it

truth is

happens

on most days

in most homes

we mess up

we lose it

with our kids

yet we hide it

from each other


​awareness is key

to positive change


so when you lose it

with your children

you mess up

as a parent

try this 1-2-3 perspective shift

to find your inner rainbow
​​

​

Picture
Rachelle Duren-Bernardi

Check the pattern.


When do you tend to lose it?

morning? bedtime? dinnertime?

when you're tired or hungry?

when your child cries or talks back?

Notice the pattern,

gently and without judgement.



Your trigger is your unmet need.

Behind your trigger

as a parent,

the pattern of you losing it

there's ________

your unmet need


what you need

that you're not currently getting

Like a puzzle

can you figure out what it is?


Do you need:

more sleep or support?

more time to yourself?

to bring closure on a memory

from your own childhood?

or maybe a little more respect

from your little one?

Get clear on what you need

even it seems huge

and out of reach



Now get specific. 

Do you deprive yourself of what you need?

Say it ain't possible?

Feel too exhausted

to take care of you?

Open up to that rainbow in the storm

little bit of sunshine

something small

you can do for you 

To meet your need

before you lose it

change your moment


Looking for some ideas?


One mom of three 

sets the timer for 10 minutes

10 minutes all to herself

she  gives herself that gift


Or you could

get psyched up

for a calm bedtime

by giving yourself

a walk around the house

a song you love

some jumping jacks

before the marathon of the day

comes to an ends

and bedtime begins


Look for little moments just for you

to goldmine

throughout your day

to reconnect you with you



We lose it as parents when our needs aren't met.
​


Be open to what you need

Get specific

Make it happen

Baby steps

to your rainbow in the storm.



You got this,

Megan
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Laurie Menk Otto, N.D.
 

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