 do you have an inner dragon the fire breathing dragon parent or teacher popping up when you override your boundaries suppressing your truth + needs false attempt to fit some false illusion "to be perfect" exploding in your face because you tried to hide what you feel from your kids but truth is truth when you don't speak your truth is blows up in your face what if you tamed your inner dragon by simply saying what you are feeling a couple weeks ago i completed the positive discipline for early childhood educators training here's a pic from the training with my mentors in positive discipline i trained with them 8 years ago (when i had a 2 year old!) for my initial positive discipline certification and here we are almost a decade later  one of my fav tools from the training is the tool of bugs and wishes also known as using "I" messages according to positive discipline we communicate our inner truth thru non verbal communication aka "eye messages" for example as a parent or teacher you might be trying your best to hold in your anger frustration irritation sadness you might speak words that don't align with your inner truth but your kids are paying more attention to your nonverbals messages you give with your face tone of voice body language when we try to hide our inner truth it sends the message to our kids that they also have to hide their feelings it also sets us up to repress what we're feeling wishing wanting until we explode when you repress or deny your true feeling and desires your inner dragon is now running the show breathing fire on all who cross your path in that moment THERE IS ANOTHER WAY....  with bugs and wishes it's simple you just say it like it is - BEFORE you explode the sentence starter is "It bugs me when _____ and I wish you would ____ instead." easy peasy because you are simply SAYING WHAT YOU FEEL! so simple so revolutionary when i first went to use bugs and wishes i doubted it i thought the tool might feel mean or negative to use i thought my son might feel attacked but nope bugs and wishes is truly liberating bugs and wishes is a tool to: * speak your truth BEFORE you explode * communicate clearly to your children how you feel & what you want them to do * teach your children it is a-okay to feel the BIG feelings, speak them, and then focus on what we DO want * develop socio-emotional intelligence in your children as you're modeling syncing up your inner experiences, emotions, non-verbal communication and words to all send the same message
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Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! 
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