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are your kids fighting like crazy?

10/23/2016

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Sibling rivalry and arguing kids
can ruin your quality of life as a parent.

I'm going to share one simple
Positive Discipline strategy
to set you free.

As a parent,
you're not a judge or a cop.
Your job is NOT to determine
who is "right."

The vast majority of the time,
it doesn't matter who is right
and even if it does,
it's not your job to prove 
innocence or guilt in your kids.
Or to impose sanctions
or punishments based
on your verdict.
Unless you want your home
to feel like a prison or a courtroom.
This approach will drive you batty,
and cause your kids 
to fight even more.
And sadly,
may damage their relationships
beyond repair.

Remember this simple phrase:
Finding out who's RIGHT
= 
More FIGHT

Period.

Your job as a parent
is to ensure your children
have a lifelong foundation
of positive sibling relationships,
and that they eventually learn
how to fight fair and work out
their conflicts.

Your kids need each other.
Forever and ever.
And they will fight like cats and dogs.
It's one of the best ways they learn.
Accept that your kids will fight
and that it's not your job to fix it.
So...

What DO you do then?

Put them in the same boat.

Read more about this tool here 
and here. 
You can start using this tool
when your kids are babies,
and all through the teen years. 

One of the families
in my coaching practice
tried out this tool recently
and here's what they had to say:

"putting the kids in the same boat
has been working INCREDIBLY."

She also focused on solutions,
which includes having her eldest
check in with and help the younger one
after any upset.
And bingo! 

Read these articles about
Putting Your Kids in the Same Boat
here and here.

If you need support implementing
this tool (it's not an easy one),
schedule your 1 hour coaching session
to get your plan in place.

Your kids are always going to
argue (it's how they learn),
but you can put an end to
debilitating sibling rivalry
- and fighting that drives you crazy-
once and for all.

You got this.


All the best,
Megan


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    Hi friends,  I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative."  This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!

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