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when you hit a wall

7/26/2015

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I used to feel

Stuck

Like mud

Like quicksand

Stuck

In life



Now

More like I hit a wall


Walls

Better than quicksand

Walls

Can be taken down



Walls are great teachers

I met a wall this week

I asked it 


What do you do when you hit a wall?

This is what that wall taught me


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1) Don't freak out. This is #1 for a reason. Everything else hinges on this. You freak out, you do damage to yourself (self-judgement or self-pity) or someone else (yelling, picking fights, over-reacting, withdrawing). You don't have to be totally calm. Just stay cool. Don't lose it. This too shall pass. And you'll be all the wiser if, even when you're freaking out a bit inside, you keep it cool. Don't freak out.


2) Freak out productively. This is my favorite tool, and it's not used enough in life. You take your___________(whatever it is you are feeling about your wall) and you do something creative with it. Work-out, run, dance, do yoga, paint, play music, journal, shoot hoops...do something with that angst, depression or inner turmoil you are feeling. You call the shots in life, don't let what happened to you rule you. Express it in a beautiful, artistic, athletic way....or in any way that speaks to you. Freak out productively.


3) Listen to what you need. Before you freak out productively, your heart's gotta tell you what would be a productive freak out for you. Or maybe you already know. Whether your intuition is screaming in your ear, or you are at a loss for what to do next, sink into your heart and stay quiet. Now say out loud the first positive thing you could do for yourself. Trust what you just said. Don't doubt it, do what you know you need to do for you. Listen to what you need.  


4) Give it Time One day, a few months after my separation with my ex, just having found out my mom had terminal cancer, I was talking to a wise customer service woman. I could hear the wisdom in her voice. I told her what was going on with me. Asked for her advice. "Wow, I don't know," she said. "You just gotta give it time." Time takes care. Give it Time.


5) Celebrate the Wall
The process you are in right now is in an important one. It's a promise to make sense of all you are, what has happened to you, and how to still be truly you. Integration. And making sense of the walls you hit in life and the times when you feel stuck, it's all a part of life. I don't know anyone that doesn't feel stuck or like they've hit a wall from time to time. The best way to take that wall down? Throw it a party. Celebrate how far you've come and what an amazing teacher that wall is. Then watch that wall crumble and step into your forward moment of now, until the next wall appears.



When you can work with your walls, blocks, and the ways you feel stuck, you master your destiny. Remember it's not what happens to you, but what you do with it that counts.

If these words have spoken to you,could you write me a little note below? 
I love hearing from you!  


Have a wonderful week.

xo
Megan
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awesome and negative

7/17/2015

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A friend of mine said recently,

"It's like this. Awesome or negative."

"What, my parenting?" was my honest reply.

"No, my life," she said.


This polarity

Of Good or Bad

Right or Wrong

Happy or Sad

Whether it's in parenting, or life

It's too extreme

And simply untrue


Yet we hold on to one extreme 

Or the other

Forgetting that real life is made 

Of both


Shades of meaning

Colors blur

Lines intersect

Awesome and negative 

They co-exist


Good people 

Royally mess up

Tragedy occurs 

Often bringing out

The best of humanity

Stress happens

But so do miracles


Unpredictability of life 

Never know what a day will bring


Our happy life and our hard life

Live next door

It's not an either/or

Exist together

Hand in hand


And there's something more

You are more than what happens to you

So take your awesome in one hand

Negative in the other

Honor them both

For the lessons learned

Do a little dance

Of life

And move forward

Step into you


Because awesome and negative

Experiences of being alive

Extremes of life

They come and go

All with a grain of salt

Wisdom said


But you create the painting of you

Where colors blur

Shapes blend 

Lines intersect

Magic happens

Magic of you


Have a wonderful week, my friends.

Embrace the awesome and the negative

As all part of the journey of life,
the magic of you

Light the spark

Create the painting of you

Your unique journey of life


And if these words have spoken to you,

please send me a comment.

I love hearing from you!

xo
Megan


 
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    Mama Megan

    Hi friends,  I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative."  This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!

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