 every year in summer magic we get real focusing on what's closest to your heart this summer and what drives you MOST crazy over the summer what do you think the #1 summer parenting challenge is? drum roll please...  As we begin our last week of school here in Portland, here's some tips for transforming summer sibling conflicts: #1 Recognize how your birth order affects your parenting: * Were you the youngest, and picked on/bossed around by older siblings? * Were you the oldest, and given a lot of responsibility/ power from your parents? * Were you an only child, and this is all new? HONOR your birth order as a child, your relationship with your siblings, and the unique dynamics within your family to ANTICIPATE what your parent triggers around sibling conflict might be. #2 You are no judge nor police office. I hope this is the most liberating thing you've heard all day..... You do NOT have to decide which one of your children is right or wrong, and you don't have to be the enforcer of punishments. THIS IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A PARENT. Playing cop or judge simply will make matters worse, and will merely intensity sibling conflict and rivalry. What to do instead? Put children in the same boat! Parents have had amazing success with this Positive Discipline tool. #2 "Attention is a poor substitute for Connection." My mentor in Positive Discipline told me this, and I couldn't agree more! If you think your children are getting into arguments to get your attention, you're probably right. Prevent the development of a false sense of power by focusing on CONNECTION with Quality Time. Sometimes, parents feel like they don't have time for Quality Time. But, remember you're going to put the time in with your kids in a positive way or in a negative - you get to choose which one it is! You can pick the investment of Quality Time, which will positively grow your children's brains and possibly prevent or minimize sibling conflict. Or you can continue putting the time in with your kids with yelling, breaking up fights and punishing them.... sibling conflict is very challenging over the summer sibling conflict is both a #1 parenting challenge and a #1 way to grow as a parent hope these tools were helpful to prevent minimize transform sibling conflict in your family this summer and beyond i look forward to diving into sibling conflict in more detail in summer magic 2019  you're invited to join us for summer magic 2019 full of simple positive parenting + mindfulness tools to make this your best summer yet all free all virtual join us for summer magic 2019 with wonderful summer magic 2019 raffle giveaways from: Sparkle Stories Super Nature Adventures Pure Haven Young Living 
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Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! 
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