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arrested development

5/20/2019

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are you experiencing
emotional outbursts
or breakdowns
in your family?

you're not alone!

it's the #1 challenge
we face today
as parents

whether
the high emotions
are our own
or own children's

this is a time
of high high
emotions
in parenting

why?

because
we're all stressed out!


emotions
are the safeguards
of our lives

so both
our emotions
& our children's
are on red alert
letting us know
we're all
too stressed out

too many demands
too much to do in a day
not enough support
whether
it's physical
emotional
or financial
support
we need more

so if you
or your kids
are experiencing
high emotions
breakdowns
outbursts

know 
you're not alone
and
it's not your fault
simply
life is too much stress
not enough support

plus
for most of us
parenting today
we have
an emotional deficit
arrested development
of our own emotions

why?
because
our own
parents
teachers
caregivers
either punished us
or ignored our own
emotions
when we were kids

what happens then?
we got stuck
stuck in the negative
emotion that never
got the support 
it needed

stuck in the 
development 
stage of life
that was unmet

most of us
parents
today
myself included
are walking around
with emotional deficits
arrested development
stuck in our inner world
as a little 3, 5, 7 or 9 year old

unresolved emotional
development
means our own children's
high emotions
trigger our own
unresolved high emotions
a negative emotional
feedback loop
can ignite

but there is 
also opportunity
we get to heal
those old wounds
emotions
stuck 

we get to transform
our own high emotions
into the emotional support
we always needed
but didn't have 
as a children
through parenting
our own children
in meeting
their emotional needs
we meet our own

we transform
the cycle
we create
new positive patterns
for emotional
support
resiliency
thriving

we create 
an unshakable
inner security

we share
this gift 
with our children
healing our
family dna
creating a 
positive emotional
legacy for the 
next generations

Together we can heal our family's emotional legacy.


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p.s. Want to transform your arrested development? Heal your family's dna? Create a positive emotional legacy for yourself, your children and your grandchildren? Click here to join the Calm the Storm Community + Movement.
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happy mother's day blessings!

5/12/2019

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it's mother's day...
whether you're
celebrating
or
crying thru
today
or somewhere
in the middle

this mother's day wish
is for you!


i'm laughing

with the guy
at the grocery store

smh
at the sky high
boxes of flower waste
for yet another
hallmark holiday

this aspect
of mother's day
i can't stand

i'm somewhere
between
boycotting
this day
and
declaring everyday
as mother's day

i also honor
that this day
for some is
a complete + utter 
day of loss + grief

for those people with
no moms
lost moms
bad moms
sick moms
for those 
people who 
have lost babies
today's a hard day

no matter how
you see + feel
today
here's my mama blessings
for you

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Blessing #1: More fun, beauty, joy - and way less stress.

play my dear friends
divine play
prancing
dancing
thru life
like
you're in a field
of wildflowers
every day
or least 30 seconds
of every day


I wish you a life filled with fun, beauty & joy - like the kind found in the most beautiful Mother's Day bouquet - or better yet a field of wildflowers.
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Blessing #2: Wishing you a lifetime of support.

the stress
will flow
ever forth

we can't
change that
but may
you also
be blessed

with an eternal well
of never ending 
support
for your highest
+ best self

that kind of
counter balance
i wish you today
and everyday


May your support always outnumber your challenges. ​
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Blessing #3: May you live from your integrated self.

the joys
and the pain
the beauty
and the ugly hard
the celebrations
and the setbacks

they're all part
of who you are
they all
make you
you

but rather
than embracing
the hard stuff

can you embrace
the lesson
from the negative

can you grow
through the challenges

gain empathy
from your pain
 
have the courage
to live from 
your strengths
anyway
everyday

because
the beauty
joy
love
wisdom
that is you
your birthright

this mother's day
and always
that's my blessing
for you
eternally

​
May you live everyday from your place of power.
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You are the gift - this Mother's Day and beyond. Sending so much love and support to you! ​


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the part that's broken

5/7/2019

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i see
the man
outta
the corner
of my eye

shirt off
laying in the sun
the sidewalk
his home

empty
despair
his disconnect
from the rest
of us
real

hello
how are you
today
i say

it takes him
a minute
he's in
his own world
used to being
invisible
at best

oh good
i hear his reply

many levels
of sadness
wash
over me 

because
i know him
i have
parts of me
just like him
foresaken
pieces
of
human life
lost

the pain
from ones
who were
supposed
to keep us safe

somehow
i didn't
end up
like him

but
my
compassion
empathy
strong

because
most of us
have
broken pieces
leaving us
feeling lost 
from life

later on
i sit
in the sun
like him

i feel
the broken pieces
in my gut

i say hello
befriending
those
fragmented
pieces of me
still trying
to make whole

i tell myself
all those
fragmented
pieces
of me
hold on

that
even if 
we're 
broken
deep within
we're still whole

same
goes
for you
even if
you have
broken pieces
you're still whole 

give
those parts
of you 
extra
love
acceptance
so they 
can heal

their presence
just like
the man
who lives
on the street

we see them
we see us
we promise
to bear witness
because
life isn't lost

together
we reach
for higher ground
from the pain

those
parts of you
feeling homeless
lost deep within

today
practice
seeing
those
broken
pieces
of
you

send them
love & concern
bear witness
to their past
to honor
their part in
your whole

knowing
all the while
that
the wholeness
of you
is stronger
than any
broken pieces

take those
broken pieces
rising stronger
in wholeness
reaching
always
towards the sun



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    Hi friends,  I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative."  This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!

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