 it was a saturday morning i had just finished up a 3-week work stretch this was my first day off in 3 weeks!! i love saturday mornings so with grand plans of cooking with my son and sprucing up his room i looked over at my little guy who was a grumpy puddle of mush on the couch i couldn't help but feel resentful my first day off in weeks and my son was so NOT on board with my master plan it could have easily gone downhill from there with power struggles + yelling it's easy to forget in everyday moments as parents that we have conscious choice in positive parenting we have CHOICE + TOOLS to nurture ourselves + our children to transform challenging interactions to stay in the love of Connection + Cooperation but no doubt it takes work in this moment i wanted my son to buck up to get on board with my plans to follow my directions :) but reality called in the form of a grumpy kid on the couch so instead of MY idea of saturday morning.... i took it back to halts my son was tired + lonely so we met his need for connection with a game of battleship (that i had to consciously choose to enjoy) + i lowered my expectations for myself, him & the morning because he didn't get much sleep the night before we never got to cooking + cleaning his room but after we reconnected he was ready for simple redirection + correction he tidied up the living room and took out the trash & recycling most importantly WE STAYED IN THE LOVE my main accomplishment was no power struggles no yelling instead we strengthened our Connection through meeting his basic needs and we got baby step tasks done  i'm not saying it's easy or that any of us will ever be "perfect" or 100% but truth is power struggles + yelling just feel yucky and are an addictive cycle most of us are trying to change plus when we fall into the negative as parents it can take ssssooo long to get back on track with ourselves + our kids that at some point staying in the love meeting basic needs + connecting before correcting all become WAY easier than power struggles + yelling that's my goal for you + for all of us to get to that point where the positive becomes SO MUCH easier than the negative little by little |
Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! 
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