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Weekly Reflections + Lessons this month i'm finishing grad school moving and launching my program for parent trauma survivors getting to gold doesn't come easy this spring is dedicated to faith + grace hard work positive thoughts patience discipline lots of kale + dancing and shinning as i bright as i can through all the changes til i grab on to that light at the end of the tunnel and make it mine. and for you, whatever you need this spring to bring you to the next level of you --- and all the support you need to make it happen You got this, Megan 
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Every holiday, I'm reminded of the power of rituals + routines to guide our lives. How it's been that way since the beginning of human existence. That our brains are pattern-seeking. That if we want peace of mind, and peace in our homes We can let those Routines Rule. Or be the boss. Think about a preschool classroom... What if everyday, the teacher decided to do the class activities in a different order. Chaos would ensue. Same concept applies to our homes. If you're on inner rebel, free spirit like me you may resistant doing.the.same.thing.everyday. at.about.the.same.time. So start small. Pick one time of day. Bedtime or morning routines. Or a time when you notice your family struggles. Build a routine full of at least one thing that motivates you and your children. Ask your children for input, and how they want to be reminded of the routine. And give it a go! Be consistent, for this next week. And watch power struggles lessen, and maybe disappear all-together when you...  What if someone.... followed you around conveying unconditional FAITH and BELIEVE in your GOODNESS, every day? What if your parents gave you the gift of guiding your behavior with 100% faith in you? That would be your inner voice today. Always secure and confident in who you are. Didn't get that parental gift when you were little? It's never too late to give the gift of believing in oneself to yourself, and your children. We talk a lot about Positive Intent in the Parenting for the Next Generation community, and Positive Discipline's Empowering Encouragement (which parents call magic!) It can all begin with this easy phrase: You can do it! And to celebrate accomplishments, successes, & happy moments: You did it! In real life, "You can do it!" might sound like.... * You did it! You finished the puzzle! * Time to clean up/ do homework. You can do it. (Then break the task down into smaller pieces and/or get started to help them get moving.) * When it's time to leave the store, we can do it peacefully and quietly. If you need help, ask me. Positive Parenting is scaffolding: one positive communication tool (that feels good to say & hear) after another ---to motivate and bring out the best in yourself and your children, while teaching like skills. Give "You can do it!" a try, and let us know how it goes! Remember the power of tone of voice & facial expressions. Embody that faith, belief, & trust with your whole self. Positive parenting is a practice, an art form, and a community of conscious parents. Join the movement. And this week, wishing you the power of unconditional faith + belief in yourself and your children. You can do it! Megan  Weekly Reflections + Lessons living every day
takes courage don't let anyone tell ya any different that life isn't at least part struggle and for some it's all struggle but hopefully that's not your story life can certainly feel like more struggle than not more to life than the struggle hard times learning thru pain you're way more than that me too lately been called to rise up to do something greater than the sum total of me something that isn't much about me but about service to humanity Service to humanity is the best way to love your life little me moving into the big forward of goodness and that's scarier than all my pain combined to feel good we gotta feel safe to feel good much easier to keep hiding where we feel comfortable often holding us back all the while being strong is vulnerable vulnerability in our strength but one day the voice gets strong enough whisper maybe still but we listen in baby steps in leaps n bounds stepping into The Gold fully me in service to humanity having fun being really serious about how we transform ourselves live our gifts and our gold change the world one day at a time here we go to even it all out i got a photo shoot scheduled #staytuned #GettingtoGoldProject #balance #loveyourlife In the Parenting for the Next Generation community, I half-jokingly tell parents, everything you're doing today is in preparation for a smooth teen years. Today, you are building a solid foundation of trust + mutual respect. Today, you are developing your children's inner compass. Positive communication (being able to talk and listen to one another) is the rock of your foundation and relationship with your children. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk is your ticket, and one of my favorite parenting books.  You want your children to feel like they can tell you *anything.* Which means... today begin to work towards responding without judgement, criticism, or fixing. It's not easy! Start building trust with the little stuff, so if something serious is going on in your children's lives, they know they'll be able to trust you. Say your child has said ______, and you'd usually jump into fixing, wishing it weren't so, or irritation. Some examples might include: "I hate school." or "No school," for a little one. "She is mean!" (about a friend) or "No sharing!" Or any other uncomfortable statement that comes out of your children's mouths that deep down you wish they weren't saying! What do you do? What do you say? Step 1: Try simply saying back, (deep breaths before speaking are always a good idea!) any of these simple responses:  Step 2: Add in: "Tell me more." Be sure to speak in a neutral, compassionate way --with more deep breaths! The goal of: Uh-huh... Yes... I see... and Tell me more? For your children to: * Fully empty out & express themselves. and * Feel like, "my parent gets me." After your children are done talking, and you've been fully listening, add in the next step. Step 3: Simply state back what you heard.... "You don't like school because you want to be outside." "You feel like your friend is mean because she tells you what to do." "You don't want to share because you love to play with that toy." To summarize this tool: 1) Deep breaths with "Uh-huh..." "Yes..." "I see..." 2) Then, "Tell me more..." 3) Reflect back what you hear. Bingo. Your children feel like, "my parent understands me!" From this place of understanding, you can effectively move into problem-solving or making a plan. Ready to give it a try? Or maybe this tool is a reminder of what you're already doing? Remember:  So please be gentle with you. Be your own coach and inner advocate, so you can do the same for your children. We're here to support one another! And stay active in our positive parenting practice. Which is exactly why I offer: The Parenting for the Next Generation Online Class + Community. The next session begins April 2nd! Click here to get on the wait list & receive special program offers. Enrollment opens March 21st. This week, wishing you the power of positive communication with your children ---and all the support in the world so you can live the power of YOU. You got this, Megan  Ready to Unlock Your Parenting Power? Join the Parenting for the Next Generation Online Class + Community. Enrollment opens March 21st. For more info and to join the wait list, click here.
Reflections + Lessons from my week a different kind of wind blew this week eclipse time always crazy powerful for me always something getting eclipsed or trying to letting go of the old so the new growth that's always been there can shine through right now this is the best i've ever felt mentally + emotionally and yet tired like i'm using all of me for the first time ever tending, tending, tending to me as my sister reminded me in her eclipse reading honestly i feel like a totally different person me for sure but with my gold so good secure confident in myself exactly like i hope for the parents i serve and yet life is still life not perfect but it can still be awesome  as i focus on sharing my story and supporting parents who are trauma survivors i'm very tired it takes all i have inch by inch one foot in front of the other believing in oneself goodness in you and making positive action steps based on your faith in yourself if we can do that in a day what else is there? we done good. This week, wishing you an infinite well of faith in you, and your goodness. Believe that you are worthy of living your gold. All the best, Megan  p.s. Stay tuned for more info about "The Getting to Gold Project." Special thanks to Iluska Ikeda Studio, Made to Mother, and Joyful Courage for collaborating and featuring my work for parent trauma survivors. I always wish I could wave a magic wand for the parents in my community, (and for myself) and make everything perfect. Parenting, and life. Wouldn't that be great? But the essence of LIFE is our learning and growing. And bottom line is I don't have a magic wand. But I do know about parenting magic, the magic + power of YOU. Parenting and life will never be perfect. But they can still be AWESOME. Your parenting + life magic, rooted in your AWESOMENESS--- is one of the main things we work on together in the Parenting for the Next Generation Online Class + Community. (Next session begins April 2nd! Click here to get on the wait list & receive special program offers ) Here's a little parenting secret that every parent should know, and that I share with parents in my community: 
Simple truth.
Runs deeps. This week, simply notice as a Gentle Observer, when you feel like a good parent, and when you don't. Then get out your "save" button and save a picture of your awesomely, good parenting self. Take out this image of your "feeling good parenting self" and practice feeling and thinking this way throughout your day. Eventually, you'll be able to call in your "feeling good self" to help you deal with AND transform the harder stuff of parenting and life. My goals for you? * That you can learn to access and live your feeling good self, every day. * And that you feel worthy of living your goodness, everyday. This week, wishing you lots of magic, feeling good, and awesomeness rooted in the power of YOU. You got this, Megan p.s. Parenting for the Next Generation 4 week online program begins April 2nd-- Unlock Your Parenting Power! Sign up below for updates + special offers. 
Reflections + Lessons from the week My son had a play date one day after school this week. We left school hand-in-hand to cross the street. I do this thing to get cars to stop, so we can cross the street. I take one step into the street. Stand up straight. Look serious. Confident. Very New York. I stare straight at the car, even if they are far away. With Wonder Woman like power, I announce our intention to that car. And I stop that car with my energy. With my force. A command of my presence, and my place in the world. It feels about as fierce as I get. To make things happen in daily life. To ensure children in my care are safe. I realized this week, how much I love this random + fierce act that simultaneously claims my space in the world. My right to be. My ability to protect and keep children safe. To make my intention known both energetically and physically, respectfully and powerfully. And then to follow my intention through into positive action. What a powerfully simple act this crossing of the street becomes. How can I capture that energy, power, intention to the places in my life I feel more weak, less confident? That fierceness to protect, to make known my intentions and follow through with them in everyday life. And how can you do this same? This week, here's my wish for you...  You got this,
Megan p.s. This week's post inspired in part by the work of catherinesolizrey.com. If you are a woman in business, check out Catherine's work for some serious inspired fierceness to bring your dreams into reality. |
Mama Megan
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family! 
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