by Rachel Hadiashar
according to positive discipline
one of the most important tools
to model mutual respect and
help your children develop their
own capabilities are open-ended questions
this past week
i talked about 3 strategies
to help you develop a positive relationship
today with your children
in this short video
and one my fav tools is "what?" and "how?"
simply put curiosity questions:
* engage children in problem-solving
by asking their opinion, thoughts, feelings,
or their ideas to brainstorm solutions
* develop intrinsic motivation
or motivation from within
to shift from a consequence to
a solution-orientated parenting focus
* show that you respect your children's input
and trust in their wisdom to come up
with solutions to common problems,
struggles, misbehavior and negative patterns
in your home
* develop partnership in shared decision-making
* equal cooperation because children
who have an active role
in expectations, transitions, and routines
are much, much more likely to cooperate
with small children, you can start
using open-ended questions
simply by asking:
"what comes next after your shoes?"
"how do you want to set the table?"
and also engaging their input:
"how do you want to spend the afternoon?"
"what's your favorite activity at the park?"
with small children you may have to suggest
possible choices or get them started on
when older children misbehave,
make a mistake, need redirection
or are processing a real-life situation
curiosity questions are:
a #1 to get them back on track
without having to threaten or reward
"what do you think should happen next?"
"how would you like to fix the program?"
"what did you learn from the situation?"
"how can you two figure this out on your own?"
curiosity questions are democracy
in the making
they teach children how to solve real-life problems
and send the message that you and your children
are on the same team
while also developing intrinsic motivation
can take a bit of practice to use
hop over here to post a question
or share your experience
with our community
or schedule a 1 on 1
parenting empowerment exploratory
session with me to learn more
what do think about
curiosity questions? :)
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Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!