by Rachel Hadiashar
We all make mistakes.
Try, try, try it again.
As grown-ups when we mess up, we usually know what to do.
But we're too overwhelmed for one reason or another to do the right thing.
For our children, when they make a mistake,
they literally don't know what to do,
or they've totally forgotten.
Because they're still learning,
and their brains are growing.
we are here to remind them of all that is right in the world.
The right thing to do, and the right thing to be.
Teaching our children what's right is one of our # 1 goals in parenting this next generation.
"Try it again"
is your ticket
with LOVE and RESPECT.
This morning, I used "Try it again"
5 times in a half hour.
Try it again sounds like this...
My son is seven.
We're working on keeping hands off someone's head,
asking first, or doing whatever the playful thing is
on your own head instead.
This morning, my son put a stuffed animal on my head.
"Try it again, " I said lightly, positively, while looking him in the eyes, and with a slight nod of my head.
He immediately said,
"Oh, I can do that on my own head."
And the little bear was instantly
dancing away on his head.
Before that, we were playing a board game.
He moved my piece.
We're working on this golden rule....
~ He moves his piece,
and I move my own piece when it's my turn. ~
"Try it again," I said after he moved
my piece on my turn.
"Oh yeah," and he moved my piece back
to where I was.
Joyfully, with no resistance,
like it was part of the game.
I wish all learning in life could be this simple + positive.
Maybe it can be?
We're all worthy of lovingly and respectfully getting another chance to do
what is right in life, both as parents and as children.
So give yourself the gift of "Trying it again," when you mess up or make a mistake.
The younger your child is, the more you'll break the "try it again" into baby steps,
adding simple clear Do Statements, or offering more help.
Try it again
creates new neural pathways to set the positive patterns we DO want in life.
Let's set the positive in stone.
try, try, try it again.
All the best,
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!