by Rachel Hadiashar
When you are in Connection with your highest self and your Positive Intent,
you are an awesome + amazing parent.
But, hey life is stressful.
We lose it sometimes.
Here's some ways you can build your muscle of Connection.
So you can stay connected to the power and strength of you
during more moments of everyday life
--especially those stressful ones.
Notice when you are losing it as a parent.
What your triggers are
and how it feels in your body when you lose it
or you are about to lose it.
Develop Your Regathering Plan
Think Move it Through.
Parents yell at their children as a way to release stress.
You can train your brain to learn another way to release stress.
This is called developing your regathering plan.
Most parents need to do something physical.
Jump jacks, run in place, so some squats.
Doing something physical helps you to move the stress through,
in a positive way.
This modeling is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.
Many parents also say they need to take a break.
Modeling a Positive Time Out is one option,
which means you give yourself time for you to feel better.
Simply stepping outside or into another room can help.
You know how much distance and the amount of time away
that is safe to take for your children's developmental needs
Most likely, you will have 1 to 3 minutes for your break
in another room or stepping out the front door.
Maximizing this time with deep breaths and movements
can be the way to go.
What regathering plan would work best for you and your children?
Developing Your Reconnection Plan
Your Reconnection Plan is whatever affirms your connection with your highest self.
I think of you Reconnection Plan as the glue to hold you together with your best place.
We want you to stay connected to the power and strength of you,
so you can figure out what to do in this stressful moment of parenting.
Here's some ideas that have worked for other parents:
* Positive Talking to You:
"Ok, things are stressful, but you got this."
"It's all ok."
"You're doing great. Just relax for a moment and you'll know what to do next."
* Taking 5 Deep Belly Breaths
* Hand Over Heart
If you have time...
* Playing music
What do you do to feel better in life? What help you feel at your best?
Your Regathering and Reconnection Plan is designed to bring you back to the essence of YOU.
Powerful and loving you, in your best place to transform the stress and challenges you face,
and the misbehavior in your home.
Let me know what works best for you!
You got this,
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!