by Rachel Hadiashar
most of us are dealing
with behavior in our home
we'd like to change.
In my online class + community,
this week we've been talking about
laying the foundation for positive change.
And developing a plan to change
negative patterns of challenging behavior.
Like pre-requisites to positive change,
here are your foundational steps:
Step #1: Meet your basic needs.
Do you feel like your needs are met as parent?
On a scale of o to 10,
how would you rate your needs?
0 = Unmet needs or totally depleted
10 = Yes, I have amazing support and time + energy to take care of myself.
Where ever you are on the spectrum of needs,
what is the simplest thing you can do for you
to bring the biggest impact?
Often for moms with young children, it's simply profound things like:
* Taking a shower every day
* Getting out of the house alone
* Spending time with friends
* Setting aside 10 minutes of alone time a day
Begin to develop a simple plan to support yourself with the goal of meeting more of your basic needs, one at a time.
Step #2: Get a bird's eye view.
When your needs are met, you can see clearly.
You have access to all your wisdom.
From this place of your brilliance,
try to get above the situation
or challenging behavior.
Like a bird, picture yourself soaring
above the challenges.
From this view, you now have access
to the big picture and the greater whole.
From this viewpoint,
what do you see?
What is the big picture,
as well as the little details?
From this place of you
in your brilliance
soaring above your family's challenges,
you're ready to take action.
Stay tuned for the next positive steps.
Have a wonderful week,
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!