by Rachel Hadiashar
I don't know about you,
but I think I lost my rose-colored glasses,
or they don't work anymore.
Like there's something missing to the
whole "create the life you want" thing.
And this week,
The missing piece.
You can work to create the life you want.
And life can still be hard.
People lose their jobs,
People live through genocide,
and child abuse.
We live in a racist world.
We lock our keys in the car.
Forget to pay a bill.
Our kids don't get enough sleep.
They can't stand what we make for dinner.
People are starving on the planet.
This is life, people.
It's not a Facebook post.
It's real life.
And it can get real messy.
Oppression is real.
You are real.
You've got a kaleidoscope
of life experiences
that makes you, you.
So honor you, all of you.
For that's the missing piece.
To know, and to teach your kids,
that part of life is it's messiness.
The injustices and the pain.
We don't have to weigh them down,
with the weight of the world.
But "that's not fair" is absolutely correct.
And it's how we handle the injustices
in life that count,
and the process it can take to find your peace.
In our children's world,
they feel it.
They're working with these lessons
on a small (and sometimes big) scale everyday.
That life isn't always fair.
So how can we teach them to honor that?
And what are the lessons they can learn
from the hard times?
What can they do when things in life aren't fair
to make it a little more right?
How can they find their peace?
(Remember it's best to do this type
of teaching about injustices
and fairness when things have returned
to a calm "normal."
No point in telling a hysterical
child who can't find her favorite toy,
all that she's learning from this moment,
or it's all about her perspective.)
The missing piece is life can be hard,
and is hard,
we can still work to create the life we want.
This is the life that takes courage.
Courage to get through.
And courage to try again.
The life that doesn't come
with rose colored glasses,
but is beautiful and amazing nonetheless.
What's your view about the hard stuff in life?
And how will you model and teach that to your children?
You got this,
even when it's hard.
Have a wonderful week.
All the best,
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Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!