by Rachel Hadiashar
Do you feel overwhelmed and tired most of the time?
Are you running on empty?
Like you'll never catch up on life and find you again.
There is a crisis of run-down mothers.
The best remedy?
Taking care of you, from the inside out.
You taking care of you, like the precious gem you are.
Here's a spa treatment for your mind, heart, body, & soul from....
Shannon Meade of supportingbalance.org
& Tweak Your Self-Talk
about the art of bringing more love for you into your life with the power of affirmations.
Shannon Meade works with busy mommas who are ready to invite more self love into their lives. She shares how she began teaching women the power of affirmations to change their lives.
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"Self care, as opposed to self improvement,
is the #1 means to creating a life you love."
~ Shannon Meade
For me, as a new mom, I found it really challenging to continue to take care of myself.
I always felt most at peace when everyone in my world was well cared for and happy.
When my second son arrived, I really felt like I was drowning.
I didn't expect to feel that overwhelmed because I'd managed to cope just fine with one kid,
but two was infinitely harder. I couldn't meet everyone's needs, and that's where I was getting my self worth from, since I didn't have any time or energy to meet my own. When I couldn't keep up, that was really threatening for me. I'd completely lost myself in being a mom, and it really felt like there was no way out.
Around the time my second baby was a little over a year old, through my work relationships,
I was offered a challenge to begin doing a series of affirmations in the mirror as part of
my morning routine. I accepted the challenge, and not really being one to give up easily, I persisted.
Even though I often felt sort of ridiculous, saying "I love you" to my reflection in the mirror.
"Creating a life you love
is about striking a balance
the love you send out
into the world
and the love
and energy you pour into yourself.
When those things are not in balance,
we feel overwhelmed."
And over the month that I was really diligent about using these mirror affirmations, I started to sense a shift. It was gradual, but enough to decide to keep going, even when that month was over.
Over the course of a few months:
The crucial thing I realized is that before I really started taking the time to recognize and appreciate myself, I would try to take better care of myself.
But the whole time I was, say at yoga class, or enjoying a massage, or whatever I decided to do when I had the chance to care for me, I felt guilty.
So the benefit of the self care was really shadowed by this sense that in taking care of myself,
I was not taking care of others.
But affirming myself out loud, setting intentions for my days, just learning to get my self worth more from appreciating and accepting myself rather than looking to others for those affirmations, shifted my energy and guilt. And I could see there was actually a positive trend where if I did take time for myself, I actually had much more to give.
One of the affirmations that has been really powerful for me and I suggest moms start with is:
"I am enough."
"I am advocating self acceptance.
So much shifts in our lives when we can accept and love ourselves as we are."
If you'd like to take on a few other affirmations and dig into this process, jump into the free
Tweak Your Self Talk challenge I'm offering for the month of November.
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!