by Rachel Hadiashar
The more I work with + learn more from parents, the more I notice one thing.
The positive parenting communication tools are wonderful + transformative.
But these communication tools must have something to rest on.
It is our inner state of mind & heart that matter most in parenting, and in life.
I LOVE the positive parenting tools.
Some days they keep me thriving as a parent.
Other days they just keep me sane.
On those thriving days, me & my son are connected in the most positive, awesome way.
We laugh, we flow, we understand & respect each other.
We have fun together, all while he is learning how to be a positive human being.
My stress exists. But I rule it; it doesn't rule me.
Those are good days.
And on those harder days,
the surviving days, my stress levels---
as a single mama-grad student-business owner, who works a most amazing Education for Life day job, and wants to make the world a better place + is a childhood trauma survivor
---are too high.
On those days,
when it feels like the stress is in charge of me, the tools most usually keep me cool.
On those days,
I hold on to the communication tools
for dear life
as they keep me from yelling at my son or flipping my lid (aka losing it).
I am most thankful for the positive parenting communication tools on both kinds of days.
The tools help me have more of the thriving kind of days.
They transform misbehavior, prevent misbehavior, and raise respectful children who feel confident to live their gifts to make this world a better place.
And yet, I know some amazing parents
who don’t necessarily speak the language of positive parenting,
but who are most certainly positive parents.
I see positive parenting communication tools as the beautiful grass and flowers
our children spend their days in.
But, the flowers in your backyard might look different than the flowers in mine,
just as you may speak differently to your child than I do.
Regardless of the type of flowers,
all flowers need roots & soil to grow in.
And what exactly are the roots & the soil our parenting grows in?
The roots of parenting,
are our own hearts & minds,
and the strength & love we find there.
Positive parenting is based on how we nurture the strength and love in our own heart & mind.
For some of us, this may be buried treasure.
But we all have it.
Here's to connecting to the strength & love within our hearts + mind.
In our own unique way, we build a positive parenting foundation from the inside out.
Trust in you.
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!