by Rachel Hadiashar
first told me about
how i take care of me -----------> my happiness?
owning my life like that
my eyes wet
i told Dawn
it’s hard for me to write down my minimums
my basic needs
or even think of them
How in the world would I ever make all that needs to happen for me, happen in a day?
what i was really saying was:
i don’t know how to take care of me
questioning deep within
whether i was worthy of happiness
so that’s where I was at
for a couple months
those @$%#* minimums
they haunted me
not with a feeling of doom
but of what was changing within
and my resistance to change
changing our lives
i know now
what i need to tick….
as the highest version
in this moment
….and I know it’s possible to make that happen
to give myself what I need to be happy
not sayin’ I won’t have bad days
or feel like i don't have time
but my baseline
way of being
from the inside out
is one of personal happiness
i did it!
i found my minimums
and i’m making them happen
to make happiness happen
and you can make happiness happen for you too!
I look forward to sharing my minimums- and Dawn's minimums- with you tomorrow during this week in Self-Worth. Heart-felt thanks to Dawn for being my wise guide on the journey to my happy life. Want to experience Dawn's action-packed, but full of compassion 60 days to Balance and Bliss program? Dawn is offering 15% off to my readers. Take care of you, find your happy life!
if life came down to one thing....
what would that one thing be for you?
if you don't think highly of yourself
what do you really have?
the way you think about yourself
your respect for you
your kindness for you
your love for you
not sure how much self-worth you have?
do you at least give yourself
you'd give to a dear friend?
hope your answer is yes
but i've had to work at
i share with you
what i'm learning
and how to build it
to treat yourself
like a best friend
like your whole world
because it does
join me this week
i'll be featuring
the best & brightest
from my community
to talk about all things self-worth
from my world to your's
The other day as I was designing my on-line class for parents....
i was searching the house
for a big piece of paper
to sketch out my ideas
how about cutting open a brown paper bag?
i head to the kitchen cupboard
the first thought that crossed my mind:
Are you sure it's ok to use that paper bag for this project?
i catch myself
is the week's recycling
somehow more important than my life's work?
Whether I'm worthy of a brown paper bag
with feelings of unworthiness
subconscious operating systems
these feelings of unworthiness
so at the root of our struggles
it would be foolish to ignore them
but we often do
to avoid the pain
in my community of families
parents wisely recognize
Stress as the #1 obstacle to positive parenting
The first step to transforming your stress levels from within?
knowing you are worthy
you are worthy of less stress
of having your needs met
feeling good in your body
happy in your mind
peaceful in your heart
fulfilled in your life
so you are your calm & confident highest self
You are worthy.
That's what the brown paper bag taught me.
p.s. A special invitation for to you to join the conversation on all things self-worth related
this week on my blog.
Imagine you are asked to walk on a tightrope 100 feet in the air.
The tightrope is over a beautiful meadow, but if you fell it would certainly hurt.
There is no net beneath you, and you have never walked on a tightrope before.
How willing are you to give it a try?
Say you have the same tightrope and meadow in front of you.
But below you is safety net.
If you fall, the net will catch you.
Do you feel differently about going across?
It might still be scary to think about going across the tight rope walk.
But you know deep in your heart, the net is there to catch you.
Life is full of challenges, without a doubt.
The hope is that with every challenge you meet
You have a built-in safety net.
What is the safety net in your inner world?
The net within to face the daily challenges of living....
Believing in yourself
Your ability to succeed in life
To feel happy & content within
Love & acceptance
This is your life safety net
So whatever tight rope you are walking across
In the landscape of life
Cliffs, oceans, deserts alike
You feel safe and supportive
Your inner safety net firmly in place
Where does this inner safety net of life come from?
From your parents
In how they raised you
They believed in
So you learned to believe in yourself
To trust in who you are
Because they trusted in who you are
Our inner voice is our safety net
The safety net gifted to us by our parents
In how they raised us
This is the essence of positive parenting
Raising and disciplining our children in a way
That teaches them they can trust in themselves
In a way that helps them grow
A safety net of security from within
In their relationships with other people
In humanity and life
Especially during the inevitable challenges & pain
They’ll face in their lifetime
An inner safety net of trust, security, love, confidence & strength
This inner safety net is the gift of positive parenting
What if your parents didn’t give you this gift of your inner safety net?
You’re not alone
My gift for you
Is your golden safety net
That you get to grow as an adult
The gift of parenthood
To grow trust, security, strength and love
For yourself and your family
So you can gift this gift to your children
This is positive parenting.
Welcome to the movement, dear friends.
Wishing you all the gift of your inner safety net.
Have a wonderful week!
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!