by Rachel Hadiashar
Whenever you leave the house,
you have snacks packed for the kids
- but not you.
- what's that?
....Your 2 year old is a hot mess every day after 4 pm.
....Your preschooler grabs toys and hits at every playgroup.
....Homework is a fight every night.
This is the kinda real life stuff
that we totally forget about it-
but then magically the same thing happens
the very next week,
or the next day.
It's the worst.
There is another way, mamas.
A way to begin to feel on top of your world,
rather than 3 steps behind.
It takes a bit of awareness/presence,
a whole lotta compassion,
and some problem-solving.
Prepping for success is pretty straight-forward.
But like all the positive parenting tools it definitely takes practice.
(So be sure to head over here with any questions.)
#1 See clearly + neutrally what the negative pattern is.
Without judgment of good or bad.
It just is.
This can be so hard to do.
#2 Identify the positive pattern you'd rather see happening instead.
... I will feed and hydrate myself as I do my children.
... We'll have a mellow afternoon reading and playing out front,
instead of running errands with an over-tired child.
... I'll talk to my preschooler about how to ask for a turn with a toy and remind that we'll be gentle with our hands at playgroup. If we need a break, we'll take one. And then I'll remind my little one before we leave the house, in the car, and throughout playgroup- in a clear but gentle way.
... I'll talk to my 2nd, 5th or 9th grader and ask,
"what are your ideas to make homework time more fun?"
Whatever we decide, I'll remind her/him about the plan
in the morning and after school.
A # 1 way to transform the ruts of life and parenting.
To let go of reactivity,
and step into proactivity.
To feel on top of your world
- no matter how crazy life gets it.
All the wisdom is already inside you.
It just takes practice to create that new pattern.
Prepping for success will help you on the way
to your positive pattern.
You Got This.
All the best,
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!