"Life is 10 % what happens and 90% how we react to it."
~ Charles Swindoll
Sounds great, right?
But it's not that easy.
Because really hard things do happen to us in life.
Life isn't always fair.
Yet, this is the life we have been given to make the most of.
Sad truth is most of us were taught to respond negatively to life's challenges.
Since we can't ever fully stop or prevent life's challenges, mistakes and mess ups - all we can do is learn how to extract the positive from the negative.
How can we transform the cycles of:
* blame and shame
* self-judgement and self-criticism
* feeling depressed and/or anxious
that we were taught as children in response to life's hardships?
Of course, no one tool can solve all of life's problems.
But, Simply Wondering is a great place to start.
* neutralizes negativity and cycles of blame and shame
* allows you to get out of the box of "good" or "bad" judgement
* gifts you with access to natural curiosity
* preserves a positive relationship with yourself and others
* situates you in the optimal state for learning and growth
How to use simply wondering?
Get into a neutral - no good, no bad - just is and judgement free place.
Think bird's eye view and seeing the big picture.
Or pretend it's not you in the situation, but a friend.
Do what you can to neutralize any negative response to the challenge.
Get curious about the situation.
What are the root causes and the underlying factors?
Is there a little shift that could make a big difference?
Are there unmet basic needs?
"I wonder what's really going on here?"
"I wonder what's at the root of this problem?"
"I wonder what everyone truly needs in this situation?"
Play family or classroom detective and get curious.
Open to new possibility.
Now use your curiosity to start creating some new beginnings, pathways, or solutions to the old problem.
"I wonder if we could try...."
"I wonder what's the biggest small change we could make?"
"I wonder what would help most?"
"I wonder if I could ask the child what they need?"
Get curious about how can you create beautiful and unexpected positive change.
See where your wondering takes you this week.
p.s. Oh my goodness! What happened to the holiday season starts the day after Thanksgiving? Now the Winter Holidays begin the day after Halloween. It's crazy.
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Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!