"Life is 10 % what happens and 90% how we react to it."
~ Charles Swindoll
Sounds great, right?
But it's not that easy.
Because really hard things do happen to us in life.
Life isn't always fair.
Yet, this is the life we have been given to make the most of.
Sad truth is most of us were taught to respond negatively to life's challenges.
Since we can't ever fully stop or prevent life's challenges, mistakes and mess ups - all we can do is learn how to extract the positive from the negative.
How can we transform the cycles of:
* blame and shame
* self-judgement and self-criticism
* feeling depressed and/or anxious
that we were taught as children in response to life's hardships?
Of course, no one tool can solve all of life's problems.
But, Simply Wondering is a great place to start.
* neutralizes negativity and cycles of blame and shame
* allows you to get out of the box of "good" or "bad" judgement
* gifts you with access to natural curiosity
* preserves a positive relationship with yourself and others
* situates you in the optimal state for learning and growth
How to use simply wondering?
Get into a neutral - no good, no bad - just is and judgement free place.
Think bird's eye view and seeing the big picture.
Or pretend it's not you in the situation, but a friend.
Do what you can to neutralize any negative response to the challenge.
Get curious about the situation.
What are the root causes and the underlying factors?
Is there a little shift that could make a big difference?
Are there unmet basic needs?
"I wonder what's really going on here?"
"I wonder what's at the root of this problem?"
"I wonder what everyone truly needs in this situation?"
Play family or classroom detective and get curious.
Open to new possibility.
Now use your curiosity to start creating some new beginnings, pathways, or solutions to the old problem.
"I wonder if we could try...."
"I wonder what's the biggest small change we could make?"
"I wonder what would help most?"
"I wonder if I could ask the child what they need?"
Get curious about how can you create beautiful and unexpected positive change.
See where your wondering takes you this week.
p.s. Oh my goodness! What happened to the holiday season starts the day after Thanksgiving? Now the Winter Holidays begin the day after Halloween. It's crazy.
Every year, I celebrate the season of peace on earth & goodwill to all with Holiday Magic ~ not madness!
It's a little early for me, but the doors to your Holiday Magic will be opening soon. Stay tuned for all the details by getting on the Holiday Magic 2019 waitlist. See you soon to stress less and have more simple FUN + MAGIC this season.
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The Things No One Tells You ...
That there will always be a part of life that STINKS SO BAD.
If you LOVE fall time,
more power to you.
Yes, I also love...
* golden sun | on blue sky | with white clouds | and crisp air
* apples, cinnamon, pumpkin
* merino wool, faux fur, cozy boots
* pumpkin spice is cool too
I even made you a Fall Magic Craft Guide to celebrate the season!
Yes, Fall is 100% GLORIOUS.
But, Fall also reminds me that LIFE STINKS SO BAD SOMETIMES!!
And that part of being alive is honoring OUR HUMAN impermanence and imperfections.
Even the name "Fall" is a reminder that, just like those leaves - we all have things to LET GO of.
And also, that there are times in life
where we FALL DOWN and want to GIVE UP.
Yes, Fall reminds me that there's times in life that HURT and STINK sssssssso BAD - I can smell it now. :(
Fall time is such a GREAT teacher.
Fall teaches us...
* the power of rest and hibernation,
and how to work with depression.
* how to let go of what no longer serves us,
and how negative emotions and memories can zap all our energy.
* that compassion for human suffering is a #1,
and yet carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders - and in our minds, bodies & hearts - will bring us all down.
Fall teaches us that from the depths of human pain can grow flowers during the next season of life.
This Fall season - in exactly ONE week! - it's such a GIFT to be beginning Calm Storm dedicated to....
* building a positive emotional HOMEBASE, BLUEPRINT, and LEGACY for you and your family
* celebrating the emotional RESILIENCY & POWER of the HUMAN HEART.
In Calm the Storm, we HONOR and then SHIFT the negative in your life.
We help you BUILD a positive EMOTIONAL HOMEBASE for you and your family.
You create a well of EMOTIONAL SECURITY within yourself to support your life purpose, dreams, and intentions.
Alone, the hard stuff of live is even harder.
Together, we honor the hard stuff and then LET IT GO to create your CALM in the storms of life.
Welcome to all the families who've already joined us for Calm the Storm, and I'm SO excited to welcome more families this week!
Remember, YOU CAN DO IT this Fall season - even if it's sssooo HARD and stinks ssssooo BAD sometimes. Together #WeCanDoIt. We believe in in you!
Wishing you a wonderful week, and may all the COMPASSIONATE & TRANSFORMATIVE power of the Fall season be with you!
Fairy Magic Rainbow Wishes
people are having
a hard time
horribly sad matters
of living and dying
on planet earth today
not little life annoyances
but the big stuff of life
Then I hear the little voice...
"Megan, you've been through so much in life. There's so much suffering in the world. It's ok if you just rest and take a break from it all...."
I know that little voice. It got me through such hard times when I was a child. It taught me how to escape when I needed; how to totally check out of this earthly reality that is sometimes fraught with suffering and pain.
Now the little voice tells me, it's ok if...
* I both go to bed early AND sleep in too because I deserve it!
* I miss morning meditation and movement because it's not going to end anyone's suffering.
* I get lazy with deadlines because everyone needs a break sometimes.
This is the voice of little girl me, lost and waiting for someone to save her.
i'm a grown-up
both my parents
i can wait
of my life
no one is going
to come in
and save me
the rest of humanity
they were real
there's no wave
of the wand
all will be
Wish I could say the little girl inside me is all healed and grown up.
All I can say is healing is a process.
Becoming fully who we are here to be is also a process.
But I have learned the gift of supporting my little girl self.
Because most of us today are stressed,
we're trying to change the way we were raised,
and we're healing so we can fully show up for our kids.
Doing this big emotional work to heal and to change old patterns from our childhood is HUGE - and it's totally possible.
It's just more of a journey than a destination.
And it's more fun to have fellow travelers along the way.
So, thank you for reading.
This week, please support that little person inside of you.
Whatever they need to heal, it's ok to give it to them
- even if you're honoring old coping mechanisms.
And it's also ok, when it's time, to give "little you" a pep talk. Tell them it's going to be ok. Remind them how strong they are. And then take that positive step - even if it's a baby one - into today and building the future you.
It's not easy work,
Hi friends, I write from the heart to tell my life story, and the story of those in my neighborhood called life. Research shows that our children's emotional & mental health is contingent upon us parents being able to tell our life story, or "coherent narrative." This is my coherent narrative, my life story in the making, with some of what I love in life too. My goal is to share my life in a way that is real, uplifting & positive- sometimes serious, sometimes fun. In my practice, I inspire parents to empowerment through reclaiming our life stories and learning respectful discipline. My work is my offering to our children- our future. Wishing you all a happy family!